Guest Introduction:
Gary Wilson is the founder of the website yourbrainonporn.com, which focuses on informing people about the effects of internet porn on the brain. He is also the author of the book, “Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Gary starts by clarifying the difference between masturbation and porn use. He explains why porn has become such a big problem for a lot of young men in today’s society. Gary talks about the concept of novelty, how it activates the reward system, and how the internet takes advantage of the reward system. He also discusses the conflict between the two human needs of sexual novelty and pair bonding.
Gary then goes into some of the ways porn affects the brain, and describes the similarities between behavioral and drug addictions. He explains how the increase in access to internet porn in recent years has contributed to the rise in porn-related problems. He cites a number of fascinating studies. Gary then talks about the progression of attraction and arousal throughout the course of a relationship.
Next, Gary discusses how people can recognize if they’re addicted to porn. He describes some of the negative physical and psychological effects of prolonged and excessive porn use. Gary outlines some effective strategies for quitting porn. He also mentions some of the setbacks that guys might encounter while overcoming porn addiction.
Finally, we ask Gary for advice on developing healthier sexual relationships. He emphasizes the importance of unplugging from digital communities and building more real life connections. He then describes some of the changes that guys might notice as they start to heal from porn addiction. Gary shares some inspiring recovery stories from his website.
Mike
Mike is the Producer for the Craft of Charisma Podcast.